My biggest regret/resentment was not going on to College . I was an honor role student all through High School ,and my Grandfather even offered to help me pay for College ....but the END WAS SO CLOSE !!! Instead I got married the day after H.S. graduation to another JW ,afraid if we waited the END would come before we had the chance .
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What is the biggest regret or source of resentment because of being a Jehovahs Witness?
by stuckinarut2 ini'm sure we could all write long paragraphs about this question, but in a few words, what is your biggest regret, or frustration in life due to being a witness?.
what missed opportunities did it cost you?
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Update about my Daughter In Law
by troubled mind ina few yrs ago i posted about my daughter in law ........ http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/202817/1/happy-and-nervous-for-my-daughter-in-law#.u2uf91fli-0.
she has been such an inspiration .
she has studied hard and next week will be recieving her associates of science degree with honors !
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Thank you all for the kind responses .
The lack of education was not the only hurdle my daughter in law had to overcome . Her Mother ,how to put this in a kind way ,is very eccentric ,and is a hoarder . The children lived in a home of major disorder . Their Father died when my DIL was 2yrs old . The oldest child in the family has mental and severe health problems ,and took the majority of their Mothers time ,and attention .The children were raised with NO structure what so ever ....they slept when ,and wherever they wanted ,ate food as they got hungry with no planned meals together .
The really sad thing in all this is that her Father was a college graduate ,and a Teacher ! Her Mother was also a college graduate with a nursing degree . Her Mother became a JW about three yrs before her husbands death . I am sure the JW teachings fed into her already askew world view . To this day she has no regrets of not providing adequate education for her kids ......it is just a crazy situation .
My DIL wrote a communications paper on 'Hiding a Hoard' that gave an isightful view of how it was growing up in that type of atmosphere . One of her recollections as a child was of her Fathers urn, with his ashes, being stored in the trunk of the car under piles of newspapers .... It just breaks my heart sometimes ... I am inspired by her strength and fortitude .
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Update about my Daughter In Law
by troubled mind ina few yrs ago i posted about my daughter in law ........ http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/202817/1/happy-and-nervous-for-my-daughter-in-law#.u2uf91fli-0.
she has been such an inspiration .
she has studied hard and next week will be recieving her associates of science degree with honors !
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Last year her English Professor was so taken by her motivation that she was asked to give a speech to the then graduating class ...
Here is a sample of her personal story ( some parts have been left out to preserve her privacy )...
This I believe, I highly value education. However, I was not raised to believe this way. My brother and sisters, like myself, grew up unschooled. Hence, my childhood lacked an educational foundation. As a result, what I did learn, I took upon myself to learn, and therefore, is precious. Unfortunately, what is precious to some is disvalued by others.
My mother deemed it unnecessary to educate her children... The lack of value placed on education permeated my childhood home. When young, the difference between me, and my friends who attended school was subtle. They went to school part of the day, while I stayed at home. Yet, we liked the same things. We rode bikes together, played with our Barbie dolls together, and laughed together. Nevertheless, growing older made the differences grow too. My friends could read the label on their favorite candy bars, they could read the board when we played monopoly, and they could read the street sign of the road they lived on. My friends around me were changing, but I remained the same, they could read, I could not. I remember wanting to go to school, and having a desire to read... Eventually, I was able to obtain a self- guided reading program, which included an audio tape and a booklet with some word games. I struggled, day after day with recognize the different sounds such as ph, th, ch, sh, qu, and deciphering when a vowel was either short or long. However, each new sound I learned was cherished.
Most people I have talked to, do not remember reading their first word, but I remember mine. One day, my brother walked passed me, and on the back of his t-shirt there was a single word. I studied it for a moment, and then sounded it out “qu-i-ck-s-i-l-v-er, quicksilver” I said louder. My brother turned around and said “how did you know what my shirt said” I replied to him, “I read it”. He did not snicker or chastise, but simply smiled back at me. I remind myself now, that my struggle had also been his struggle, for he also taught himself to read.
Reading became a sanctuary, and in reading I found a love of knowledge and an insatiable thirst for education. Hence, when I became old enough for high school, I beseeched my mother to let me take a high school correspondence course. Filling out the necessary paperwork was difficult, I did not know which subjects to choose, however I did the best I could. After waiting anxiously for weeks, my books finally arrived. At first, I did not know where to begin, I never learned how to really study, and so I started from the beginning. I opened the front cover, and then I read the first word, then a sentence, then a page. I took every day slow, I built my precious knowledge, one baby step at a time. Eventually, the baby steps paid off, they led me to the completion of the course- I graduated high school. Having conquered high school, which, I had deemed impossible, I entertained the idea of going to college. I was naturally scared, but my thirst for knowledge overrode my fear. I had never been in a class room, so the thought of it was arcane. My introduction into a class room, took place the day I took the SAT test... There was one subject I received a high score in- reading. It was a small victory, but nonetheless, a victory. I knew, if I was a good reader I had endless possibilities, I could teach myself anything, regardless of my past. Thus, the following semester I enrolled in college.
In my life I have learned that reading can turn into knowledge and knowledge into wisdom, but without the first, the latter is not possible. The gift of an education is not easily seen by certain people, there are those that disvalue it, or begrudge its preciousness. For me, an education was something always beyond my grasp, and yet, my greatest desire. Without a doubt, today, I am basking in its warmth.
>>> I am so proud of her ! Every time I read this it brings tears to my eyes .
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Update about my Daughter In Law
by troubled mind ina few yrs ago i posted about my daughter in law ........ http://www.jehovahs-witness.net/jw/friends/202817/1/happy-and-nervous-for-my-daughter-in-law#.u2uf91fli-0.
she has been such an inspiration .
she has studied hard and next week will be recieving her associates of science degree with honors !
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A few yrs ago I posted about my daughter in law .......
She has been such an inspiration . She has studied hard and next week will be recieving her Associates of Science degree with Honors ! Next fall she will continue on her educational journey at University Of Colorado Boulder . Her plan is to become a biologist studying in the field of Cancer research .
I have seen an insecure ,frightened child bloom into a confident woman these past couple of years . It feels so good to watch someone follow their dream ,and not be hled back by guilt and fear .
My husband and I are flying out to surprise her at her first ever graduation ceremony .
This young woman has risen above many obstacles to follow her dream of getting an education . She was never given any formal education as a child . Her "home schooling' was a sham her JW Mother used to keep her children away from the world .There was no schooling at all for her or her siblings . By 8-9 my DIL had taught herself how to read using an alphabet tape . As a teen she convinced her Mom to allow her to enroll in a mail order Schooling program ,that she did all on her own . By the time she was 21 she had completed all the courses and considered a HS graduate . Her first day of College was the first time she had ever stepped into an actual classroom . She was so anxious she had made herself sick , I was fortunate enough to visit her at this time and accompany her to her first class as support . I am very proud of her diligence ,and accomplishment !
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"...A God's Voice, And Not A Man's!" (Acts 12:22; 2 Thess. 2:3, 4) ... That Day Is Here!
by bjc2read inquestion: how are members of the governing body of jehovah's witnesses themselves, actually viewed by jehovah's witnesses today?.
well, the following related experience may help answer that provocative question, giving us a glimpse of what the possible future days will bring us.
yes, the answer to that question may even be quite shocking to us, ... with simply terrible, disastrous results!!!
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One young man from my old hall gave his child the middle name Sydlik ... He told me if Dan Sydlik of the GB was good enough to be chosen by Jesus ,then he is good enough to name his child after ..... I kid you not.......
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Have any of you had to endure a Friedman Sales seminar ?
by troubled mind inone of my part time jobs is at a retail gift store .
i have worked there for over 20 yrs .
the owner has had this seminar a few times over the past few yrs ,and i am scheduled to once again attend this weekend .
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One of my part time jobs is at a retail gift store . I have worked there for over 20 yrs . The owner has had this seminar a few times over the past few yrs ,and I am scheduled to once again attend this weekend . It is making my stomach turn ....the thought of wasting my weekend day off listening to a slick salesmen pitch new ways to coerice a buyer into spending more . It may cost me my job ,but I just don't think I can go through with another one of these sales seminars !!!
I know who I am ,and who I am not . That being said I am good at my job ,and customers appreciate the help I extend to them .However i am sure the owner thinks I could squeeze a few more sales out of these people if I tried .
One of the reasons I think I hate this sooo much is that it reminds me of attending KH meetings . The technique is similar in sales as it was going door to door . #1 ) Finding common ground with the customer #2) Making what you have to sell appear as if they can not live without it .....blah blah blah it is a sham .....
I am a very geniune ,kind, person . I hate to be fake ! I know I am there to help you find what gift you want or need ,and not there to be your best friend in the world ....behaving like I am seems to me to be over stepping boundries . I also am practical and frugal ,I detest the idea of 'add-on sales' that the person really does not want or need .
Thanks for allowing me to vent . If you have similar feelings let me hear it .
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What TV Show(s) Do You Just Love?
by minimus ini regularly watch family feud.. homeland is a great show i watch every week, when it's in season.. metv has so many great programs---from taxi to the twilight zone.. what do you like watching?
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Big Bang Theroy , Game of Thrones (HBO), Modern Family ,
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My mother is losing her old personality
by Faithful Witness ini have been trying to engage and talk to my mother and her "natural" personality as much as possible.
she has obvious concerns about the jw's, and we do discuss issues almost every time she visits.
we didn't see her for long stretches (months at at time, and suddenly a year had gone by...) we have now both committed to a minimum of a monthly visit, and we will work toward more.
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" Love ya, and would never avoid you…….I love you and always will ; Mom " .........Those are the words you should be focused on ,you are reading too much into her introduction .You said it yourself she has a dry sense of sarcasm .
Your mom is in your life ,and actively associating with you ...count your blessings .
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HAPPY APOSTATES 2014 the Video
by Watchtower-Free inhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hpp2sdkgdgo.
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LOVE IT ! You guys are awesome .
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Sex really that bad?
by Batman89 ini was just thinking randomly.
why/how are sexual desires really that much of a sin??.
sexual energy is one of the highest forms of energies known, why would god put this strong desire in us only to have us repress it through his"word the bible"??.
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" Sex really that bad ? " ......if it is bad you are doing it wrong